Teorikisht t\u00eb gjitha p\u00ebrvojat tona na b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb. Optimizmi, kontrolli mbi jet\u00ebn dhe m\u00ebrzia jan\u00eb disa pika mbi t\u00eb cilat duhet punuar. Po renditim 22 karakteristika t\u00eb nj\u00eb personi me mentalitet t\u00eb fort\u00eb sipas kritereve t\u00eb nj\u00eb psikoterapeuteje dhe specialiste n\u00eb forc\u00ebn mendore, Amy Morin.<\/p>\n
Mban gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb ekuilib\u00ebr emocionet dhe logjik\u00ebn.<\/p>\n
Nuk b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar emocionet ose t\u00eb q\u00ebnit i arsyesh\u00ebm, b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ditur si t\u00eb ruash ekuilibrin e t\u00eb dyjave, p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb kthjell\u00ebt kur emocionet i mbivendosen logjik\u00ebs n\u00eb \u00e7astin e marrjes s\u00eb vendimeve. N\u00ebse je mend\u00ebrisht i fort\u00eb di si t\u00eb peshosh t\u00eb dyja k\u00ebto.<\/p>\n
E kalon koh\u00ebn n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb produktive.<\/p>\n
Njer\u00ebzit gjejn\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb justifikime p\u00ebr papun\u00ebsin\u00eb, por njer\u00ebzit e fort\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrohen n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb duan me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb dhe nuk e harxhojn\u00eb koh\u00ebn me aktivitete joproduktive.<\/p>\n
Besimplot\u00eb n\u00eb af\u00ebsit\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019iu p\u00ebrshtatur ndryshimeve.<\/p>\n
Jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb l\u00ebvizje dhe ndoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019iu p\u00ebrshtatur rrethanave. Pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e njer\u00ebzve p\u00ebrpiqen t\u2019u rezistojn\u00eb ndryshimeve, por k\u00ebta persona p\u00ebrqendrohen n\u00eb nj\u00eb realitet me ndryshime t\u00eb shpejta.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrballen me frik\u00ebrat.<\/p>\n
Pjesa m\u00eb e madhe\u00a0 e njer\u00ebzve i eviton frik\u00ebrat, nd\u00ebrsa disa t\u00eb tjer\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me to vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019u dukur. Njer\u00ebzit mend\u00ebrisht t\u00eb fort\u00eb nuk duken. Ata i p\u00ebrballojn\u00eb dhe i hedhin pas krah\u00ebve frik\u00ebrat q\u00eb i ndalojn\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb nj\u00eb version m\u00eb i mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
M\u00ebsojn\u00eb nga gabimet.<\/p>\n
Personat me mentalitet t\u00eb fort\u00eb nuk i justifikojn\u00eb veprimet e tyre, apo t\u00eb fshehin gabimet. Ata m\u00ebsojn\u00eb nga ato dhe shpresojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhen m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Gjejn\u00eb nj\u00eb ekuilib\u00ebr mes atyre q\u00eb jan\u00eb dhe q\u00eb duan t\u00eb jen\u00eb.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebta njer\u00ebz e pranojn\u00eb veten ashtu si jan\u00eb, por nuk reshtin kurr\u00eb s\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuari.<\/p>\n
G\u00ebzohen p\u00ebr sukseset e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
T\u00eb jesh mend\u00ebrisht i fort\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb dish t\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunosh. Suksesi i t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve nuk i b\u00ebn xheloz\u00eb, p\u00ebrkundrazi ata din\u00eb si t\u00eb festojn\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ndajn\u00eb lumturin\u00eb dhe suksesin e tjetrit.<\/p>\n
Jetojn\u00eb dhe i marrin vendimet n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb vlerave q\u00eb kan\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse jeton sipas vlerave t\u00eb tua dhe kupton prioritete e tua, nuk e ke problem p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb aft\u00ebsi q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr ata \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohen sesa ta demostrojn\u00eb at\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb fakt, njer\u00ebzit k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb vazhdimisht miratimin e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, por kjo kategori njer\u00ebzish p\u00ebrqendrohet n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e kompetencave t\u00eb veta pa k\u00ebrkuar mir\u00ebnjohje.<\/p>\n
Jetojn\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb origjinale.<\/p>\n
Jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm me veten, veprimet e tyre nuk kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb thon\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb dhe jo at\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb arritur.<\/p>\n
Vlera e tyre q\u00ebndron n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ata jan\u00eb, jo n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ata kan\u00eb. Pra nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi n\u00ebse fiton apo humb.<\/p>\n
Din\u00eb t\u00eb presin p\u00ebr t\u00eb shijuar fitoren.<\/p>\n
Ata din\u00eb t\u00eb presin p\u00ebr \u00e7mimet e tyre, din\u00eb se duhet koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbledhur frytet.<\/p>\n
Marrin p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi p\u00ebr veprimet e veta.<\/p>\n
Forca mendore nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb garant p\u00ebr moskryerjen e gabimeve. I b\u00ebjn\u00eb, por e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb se m\u00ebsojn\u00eb nga to dhe shohin p\u00ebrpara.<\/p>\n
I shohin v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb si mund\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n
\u00c7do penges\u00eb dhe problem q\u00eb has \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019u rritur.\u00a0 Zakonisht njer\u00ebzit irritohen gjat\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsive, por njer\u00ebzit me mentalitet t\u00eb fort\u00eb i pranojn\u00eb sfidat dhe b\u00ebhen m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Jan\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
Mentaliteti i fort\u00eb nuk d\u00ebshiron m\u00eb shum\u00eb, ata besojn\u00eb se kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nga \u00e7\u2019kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb jan\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrqendrohen n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
U kushtojn\u00eb koh\u00eb, pun\u00eb e mund asaj q\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Bien, por din\u00eb t\u00eb ngrihen.<\/p>\n
D\u00ebshtimet nuk jan\u00eb fundi i bot\u00ebs, por fillimi. E din\u00eb se rruga q\u00eb zgjodh\u00ebn do t\u2019i \u00e7oj\u00eb drejt suksesit.<\/p>\n
Jan\u00eb optimist\u00eb realist\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ata tregojn\u00eb kujdes me optimizmin. Kur ndodhen para v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsive shpresojn\u00eb p\u00ebr m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn, por n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb i mbajn\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebt\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb ngulura n\u00eb realitet.<\/p>\n
Punojn\u00eb mbi dob\u00ebsit\u00eb e tyre.<\/p>\n
Njer\u00ebzit i fshehin dob\u00ebsit\u00eb, por mentaliteti i fort\u00eb nuk ka frik\u00eb t\u2019u b\u00ebj\u00eb ball\u00eb dhe punon mbi k\u00ebto dob\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n
Nuk humbin n\u00eb detaje.<\/p>\n
Zakonisht sforcohemi p\u00ebr p\u00ebrsosm\u00ebrin\u00eb, por k\u00ebta njer\u00ebz din\u00eb si t\u00eb mos e humbin durimin p\u00ebr gabimet e vogla, sidomos ato t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
Jan\u00eb gati p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur probleme.<\/p>\n
Mund t\u00eb qahesh p\u00ebr problemet, mund t\u00eb ngresh drama mbi to, ose mund t\u00eb fillosh t\u2019i zgjidh\u00ebsh, si\u00e7 b\u00ebjn\u00eb personat mend\u00ebrisht t\u00eb fort\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Jan\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb gati p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar.<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb e re, nj\u00eb njeri i ri, nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb e re dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar di\u00e7ka t\u00eb re. S\u2019ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi se si vjen jeta, njer\u00ebzit me mentalitet t\u00eb fort\u00eb jan\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb t\u00eb etsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar. \/ Bota.al<\/p>\n