ga Jessica Rizza<\/p>\n
\u00c7do prind ka nj\u00eb rol udh\u00ebheq\u00ebs thelb\u00ebsor p\u00ebr t\u00eb rritur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur, \u00a0sepse f\u00ebmija ka nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb i shoq\u00ebruar n\u00eb udh\u00ebtimin drejt zbulimit t\u00eb pavar\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb tij, me largpam\u00ebsi dhe besim. \u00a0Shpesh sillemi me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duke u nisur nga humori i momentit ose nga bindje q\u00eb nuk rrjedhin nga nj\u00eb analiz\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e fakteve, por nga eksperienca jon\u00eb personale e jet\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
Prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb, mbi t\u00eb gjitha, njer\u00ebz, me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe limitet e tyre, megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb menaxhuar p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb mbi nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb konstruktive \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb t\u00eb vihemi edhe vet\u00eb n\u00eb diskutim, pa u ndalur tek aparenca ose tek ajo q\u00eb na kan\u00eb m\u00ebsuar n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri rreth f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Nuk ekzistojn\u00eb manuale p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb prind\u00ebr perfekt\u00eb. T\u00eb lexosh e t\u00eb informohesh, po, mund t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb, por \u00e7do f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe mbetet nj\u00eb krijes\u00eb njer\u00ebzore unike, me nj\u00eb karakter dhe sjellje me jet\u00ebn, absolutisht personale. Ja pse disa rregulla mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb dobishme me nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb jo produktive me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
Pengesa m\u00eb e madhe? Mos i jepesh nervozizmit t\u00eb momentit. Kur t\u00eb rr\u00ebmben inati, m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet nj\u00eb moment qet\u00ebsimi dhe t\u00eb riktheheni n\u00eb diskutim me mendje t\u00eb qet\u00eb e me ide m\u00eb t\u00eb qarta. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra e k\u00ebshilluar edhe n\u00eb rastet kur kapri\u00e7ot ndjehen shum\u00eb. T\u00eb ul\u00ebras\u00ebsh m\u00eb fort se f\u00ebmija nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjidhja. P\u00ebrkundrazi, mund t\u00eb thelloj\u00eb ngarkes\u00ebn e agresivitetit, dhe me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, mund t\u00eb transmetoj\u00eb iden\u00eb se momentet e kund\u00ebrshtive kalohen duke ngritur z\u00ebrin. JO! E gabuar! T\u00eb diskutosh pa u grindur \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur, madje e d\u00ebshiruar. T\u00eb m\u00ebsosh t\u00eb shpreh\u00ebsh emocionet e tua p\u00ebrb\u00ebn nj\u00eb moment me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi jetike p\u00ebr rritjen.<\/p>\n
T\u00eb manifestosh nevojat e tua p\u00ebrmes emocioneve ndihmon q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh nj\u00eb i rritur m\u00eb i p\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm dhe n\u00eb gjendje q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrballosh nevojat e tua pa ndjenja faji drejt t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. Ndihmon f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00ebnd q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb kontakt me ndjenjat q\u00eb provon n\u00eb thell\u00ebsi, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00eb vet\u00ebm pyetje direkte, e kthen n\u00eb shprehi t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme zakonin e t\u00eb treguarit dhe d\u00ebgjimit, reciprok. D\u00ebgjimi autentik transformon b\u00ebrtham\u00ebn familjare n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend bashk\u00ebpunimi n\u00eb besim dhe shk\u00ebmbim.<\/p>\n
Mos e bllokoni f\u00ebmij\u00ebn me shprehje t\u00eb tipit: \u201cPo qave, mami m\u00ebrzitet\u201d. Kur themi fraza t\u00eb tilla, inati dhe trishtimi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebs nuk zhduken por b\u00ebhen nj\u00eb pesh\u00eb e padukshme q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje ta shtyp\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb duhet ta dij\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb familje duhet t\u00eb flas\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha, i hapur dhe kurioz, pa tabu, edhe p\u00ebr seksin apo pedofilin\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Sepse, duam s\u2019duam, duhen edhe k\u00ebto biseda. T\u00eb rris\u00ebsh nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe ta nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsosh mbi rreziqet q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00eb, duke e ndihmuar t\u00eb zhvilloj\u00eb shpirtin kritik dhe vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin q\u00eb i duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb ecur me k\u00ebmb\u00ebt\u00a0 e veta, i bindur se do ja dal\u00eb.\/bota.al<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
ga Jessica Rizza \u00c7do prind ka nj\u00eb rol udh\u00ebheq\u00ebs thelb\u00ebsor p\u00ebr t\u00eb rritur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur, \u00a0sepse f\u00ebmija ka nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb i shoq\u00ebruar n\u00eb udh\u00ebtimin drejt zbulimit t\u00eb pavar\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb tij, me largpam\u00ebsi dhe besim. \u00a0Shpesh sillemi me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duke u nisur nga humori i momentit ose nga bindje q\u00eb nuk rrjedhin […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5585,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n