Dihet mir\u00eb se prind\u00ebrit luajn\u00eb nj\u00eb rol themelor n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e secilit prej nesh. Q\u00eb kur lindim, ata kujdesen p\u00ebr rritjen ton\u00eb, p\u00ebr edukimin ton\u00eb, na formojn\u00eb dhe na ndikojn\u00eb \u00e7do dit\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshme. T\u00eb jesh prind \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb sepse gjendesh, krejt befas, para t\u00eb papritur\u00ebs. Dhe ju menj\u00ebher\u00eb ndiheni t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm sapo e gjeni veten p\u00ebrball\u00eb k\u00ebsaj qenie t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, fryt i dashuris\u00eb mes dy njer\u00ebzve. Ne duhet t\u00eb kujdesemi p\u00ebr t\u00eb, ta mbrojm\u00eb at\u00eb dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u00eb p\u00ebrcjellim \u00a0vlerat m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr t\u2019a b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur dhe t\u00eb qet\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Dihet se n\u00ebna ka nj\u00eb rol themelor n\u00eb rritjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb saj dhe ka shum\u00eb studime q\u00eb konfirmojn\u00eb se q\u00eb nga shtatz\u00ebnia \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur t\u00eb \u201cndikoj\u00eb\u201d f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e ardhsh\u00ebm. P\u00ebrkundrazi, ka ende pak studime q\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr ndikimin e figur\u00ebs s\u00eb babait n\u00eb zhvillimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n
Baballar\u00ebt shpesh jan\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb hije nga rritja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre, dhe asgj\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb e gabuar! Babai mish\u00ebron tek vajza, iden\u00eb dhe idealin e nj\u00eb njeriu q\u00eb do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen. Roli q\u00eb babai ka n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e nj\u00eb vajze do t\u00eb pasqyrohet n\u00eb sjelljen e saj t\u00eb ardhshme dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebrkimin e saj p\u00ebr miq\u00ebsi dhe dashuri mashkullore.<\/p>\n
Ka shum\u00eb plag\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb kemi, n\u00ebse nuk kemi patur nj\u00eb baba ose n\u00ebse ky i fundit definitivisht mungon. Nga pik\u00ebpamja psikologjike, roli negativ i nj\u00eb babai mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasoja n\u00eb an\u00ebt e karakterit ton\u00eb, duke na shkaktuar pasiguri, munges\u00eb vet\u00ebbesimi dhe besimi tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Pra, prania e nj\u00eb babai n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore: na siguron dhe na sjell m\u00eb af\u00ebr bot\u00ebs mashkullore q\u00eb nga mosha e hershme, duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00eb pak \u201ct\u00eb frikshme\u201d dhe duke pranuar menj\u00ebher\u00eb dallimet e saj.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb, shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb po ndryshon dhe roli i babait nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i shk\u00ebputur dhe i dedikuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar ashtu si dikur. Baballar\u00ebt e sot\u00ebm jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebmendsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb kujdessh\u00ebm dhe duan t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb rol themelor n\u00eb rritjen e vajz\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
Nd\u00ebr aspektet pozitive q\u00eb mund t\u00eb dalin nga nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e shk\u00eblqyer midis babait dhe vajz\u00ebs, jan\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tona t\u00eb ardhshme romantike. N\u00ebse ne kemi pasur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri t\u00eb lumtur pran\u00eb babait ton\u00eb, ne do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb histori t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme dashurie, sepse ne do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb burra q\u00eb na respektojn\u00eb dhe na duan, n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb na kan\u00eb dashur dhe na duan edhe prind\u00ebrit tan\u00eb. P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, inkurajimi i vazhduesh\u00ebm q\u00eb marrim nga babai yn\u00eb mund t\u00eb na ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb formojm\u00eb karakterin ton\u00eb: sigurisht do t\u00eb ndihemi t\u00eb pranuara dhe t\u00eb sigurta n\u00ebse kemi patur nj\u00eb \u201cmb\u00ebshtetje\u201d kaq t\u00eb madhe.<\/p>\n
Shkurtimisht, baballar\u00ebt tan\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7muar dhe themelor\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u rritur n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb paq\u00ebsore dhe t\u00eb lumtur. Le t\u00eb kujtojm\u00eb sa me fat jemi n\u00ebse kemi ose kemi pasur nj\u00eb figur\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb mashkullore nga ana jon\u00eb: \u00ebsht\u00eb fal\u00eb edhe atyre q\u00eb sot ne jemi grat\u00eb q\u00eb jemi.\/bota.al<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Dihet mir\u00eb se prind\u00ebrit luajn\u00eb nj\u00eb rol themelor n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e secilit prej nesh. Q\u00eb kur lindim, ata kujdesen p\u00ebr rritjen ton\u00eb, p\u00ebr edukimin ton\u00eb, na formojn\u00eb dhe na ndikojn\u00eb \u00e7do dit\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshme. T\u00eb jesh prind \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb sepse gjendesh, krejt befas, para t\u00eb papritur\u00ebs. Dhe ju menj\u00ebher\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5460,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n