T\u00eb flas\u00ebsh p\u00ebr zilin\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb si t\u00eb hysh n\u00eb nj\u00eb fush\u00eb t\u00eb minuar!<\/p>\n
Pavar\u00ebsisht se p\u00ebrbetohen p\u00ebr past\u00ebrti, ka shum\u00eb q\u00eb e ushqejn\u00eb at\u00eb, edhe pse, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, askush nuk e pranon.<\/p>\n
Dikush gjithashtu \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekur t\u2019i jap\u00eb asaj nj\u00eb vler\u00eb pozitive, duke e lidhur me teorit\u00eb pseudo-ekonomike dhe duke harruar se si p\u00ebrpjekja p\u00ebr p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsim \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, n\u00eb krahasim me k\u00ebt\u00eb impuls negativ.<\/p>\n
Sepse, le t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb qart\u00eb: zilia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb impuls helmues, nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk lejon t\u00eb admirosh dik\u00eb dhe ta p\u00eblqesh, por pothuajse gjithmon\u00eb prodhon m\u00ebri, grindje, thashetheme, d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar at\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb person ka arritur.<\/p>\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje q\u00eb nuk e njeh mosh\u00ebn dhe statusin social.<\/p>\n
Mendoni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb studim t\u00eb koh\u00ebve t\u00eb fundit i kryer nga Departamenti i Psikologjis\u00eb i Universitetit t\u00eb Padov\u00ebs. Sipas tij, edhe n\u00eb azile pleqsh mund t\u00eb hasen ndjenja dhe mendime ziliqare.<\/p>\n
Po, tamam k\u00ebshtu: ata q\u00eb marrin m\u00eb shum\u00eb vizita nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt apo nip\u00ebrit, shpesh kihen zili dhe b\u00ebhen objekt i kritikave nga ata q\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsisht nuk marrin aq v\u00ebmendje.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse, n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre, k\u00ebto situata jan\u00eb pjes\u00eb e gjendjes fiziologjike, ajo q\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb pranohet \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjenja e zilis\u00eb q\u00eb ndjen nj\u00eb person q\u00eb e quan veten mik apo mike.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrve\u00e7 \u201cpisll\u00ebkut\u201d, sepse ndjenja e miq\u00ebsis\u00eb duhet t\u00eb presupozoj\u00eb nj\u00eb admirim t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb p\u00ebr rezultatet ose objektivat e arritura nga t\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb dashur, zilia e p\u00ebrjetuar nga nj\u00eb mik b\u00ebhet edhe m\u00eb toksike, sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb e maskuar mir\u00eb, pothuajse e fshehur, por gjith\u00ebsesi e pranishme.<\/p>\n
Ndjenja e inferioritetit q\u00eb p\u00ebrjeton personi ziliqar, kur lind n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie miq\u00ebsore, gjeneron nj\u00eb reagim edhe m\u00eb helmues dhe p\u00ebrpjekja p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebmtuar personin tjet\u00ebr b\u00ebhet edhe m\u00eb delikate, por jo m\u00eb pak e rrezikshme.<\/p>\n
Kur zilia ushqehet nga nj\u00eb person i cili, deri para pak koh\u00ebsh, ka ndar\u00eb emocione, sekrete dhe konfidenca, b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb bomb\u00eb, efektet e t\u00eb cil\u00ebs jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndalur.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, ajo q\u00eb gjenerohet n\u00eb personin ziliqar \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka edhe m\u00eb e thell\u00eb dhe m\u00eb e rrezikshme.<\/p>\n
Sepse personi objekt i zilis\u00eb, shpesh n\u00eb mir\u00ebbesim, nuk mendon se nj\u00eb gjendje e till\u00eb mendore mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e pranishme tek miku dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye vazhdon t\u00eb ket\u00eb besim, i pavet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr kurthet ose rreziqet q\u00eb po i p\u00ebrgatisin.<\/p>\n
Ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb ziliqar\u00eb zakonisht l\u00ebshojn\u00eb shpesh disa mesazhe si: \u201cNdihem inferior\u201d, \u201cNdihem i zem\u00ebruar me suksesin t\u00ebnd\u201d dhe \u201cDua t\u00eb t\u00eb shoh q\u00eb t\u00eb biesh\u201d.<\/p>\n
Miku a mikja, arrin q\u00eb t\u00eb fsheh\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb k\u00ebto gjendje humori dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebto arsye zilia q\u00eb ndjen b\u00ebhet m\u00eb e rrezikshme.<\/p>\n
Kur nj\u00eb mik nuk shpreh spontanisht k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb rezultat t\u00eb arritur, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb se di\u00e7ka fillon t\u00eb lind\u00eb n\u00eb kok\u00ebn dhe n\u00eb mendimet e tij.<\/p>\n
Sado e dhimbshme q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb largohemi prej tyre dhe t\u00eb parandaloni q\u00eb t\u00eb \u201cnjolloseni\u201d, nga kjo ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb sa helmuese, aq edhe e rrezikshme.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
T\u00eb flas\u00ebsh p\u00ebr zilin\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb si t\u00eb hysh n\u00eb nj\u00eb fush\u00eb t\u00eb minuar! Pavar\u00ebsisht se p\u00ebrbetohen p\u00ebr past\u00ebrti, ka shum\u00eb q\u00eb e ushqejn\u00eb at\u00eb, edhe pse, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, askush nuk e pranon. Dikush gjithashtu \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekur t\u2019i jap\u00eb asaj nj\u00eb vler\u00eb pozitive, duke e lidhur me teorit\u00eb pseudo-ekonomike dhe duke harruar se si […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3561,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18,21],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n