Nga Christian L. Hart<\/p>\n
N\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar, a nuk kemi th\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb nga nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr t\u00eb vog\u00ebl p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos l\u00ebnduar njeriun e zemr\u00ebs, p\u00ebr t\u00eb ekzagjeruar ndjenjat tona mbi di\u00e7ka, p\u00ebr t\u00eb minimizuar disa t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuara mbi veten ton\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar nga nd\u00ebshkimi, apo p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb lloj avantazhi mbi t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt?<\/p>\n
N\u00eb sondazhet e ndryshme q\u00eb jan\u00eb zhvilluar mbi g\u00ebnjeshtr\u00ebn, gati t\u00eb gjith\u00eb raportojn\u00eb se kan\u00eb g\u00ebnjyer n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. Por n\u00ebse t\u00eb gjith\u00eb mashtrojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment, at\u00ebher\u00eb pse t\u00eb mos i quajm\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit?<\/p>\n
Sa g\u00ebnjeshtra duhet t\u00eb thot\u00eb dikush n\u00eb dit\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb etiketohet nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtar i madh? Un\u00eb dyshoj se kjo ndodh me shumic\u00ebn prej nesh, dhe nga ne pritet t\u00eb themi nj\u00eb num\u00ebr t\u00eb vog\u00ebl g\u00ebnjeshtrash. Ne e shohim si tipike ose normale, q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb si pjes\u00eb e nj\u00eb strategjie negociatash.<\/p>\n
Ne presim q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb thon\u00eb nj\u00eb \u2018g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr t\u00eb bardh\u00eb\u2019, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur nj\u00eb ftes\u00eb sociale t\u00eb pad\u00ebshiruar, sesa t\u00eb thon\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, q\u00eb aktiviteti ku u k\u00ebrkohet t\u00eb marrin pjes\u00eb, u duket n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb i m\u00ebrzitsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n
Por sa g\u00ebnjeshtra jan\u00eb tep\u00ebr p\u00ebr nj\u00eb njeri? Studiuesit kan\u00eb konstatuar se gati t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve na p\u00eblqen ta shohim veten si t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm, dhe ne n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb aktive e minimizojm\u00eb pandershm\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ne kemi ndoshta t\u00eb gjith\u00eb nj\u00eb vler\u00ebsues t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm t\u00eb ndershm\u00ebris\u00eb, si p\u00ebr v\u00ebrtet\u00ebsin\u00eb ton\u00eb, ashtu edhe at\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
Dhe kur shohim q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt tregohen pak t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm k\u00ebtu, apo p\u00ebrfshihen n\u00eb nj\u00eb sjellje jo shum\u00eb korrekte atje, kjo nuk ka duket dhe aq e \u00e7uditshme. Por n\u00eb disa raste, njer\u00ebzit e kalojn\u00eb cakun. Ne shohim q\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtrat e tyre shkojn\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrtej sfer\u00ebs s\u00eb normalitetit.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb raste t\u00eb tilla, ne nisim t\u2019u atashojm\u00eb atyre etiketimin \u201cg\u00ebnjeshtar\u201d. N\u00ebse g\u00ebnjeshtrat e tyre jan\u00eb trondit\u00ebse ose t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme, ne madje mund t\u2019i quajm\u00eb ata si g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj, g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00eb t\u00eb zakonsh\u00ebm, g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00eb nga halli ose g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00eb patologjik\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Gjat\u00eb 25 viteve t\u00eb fundit, nj\u00eb num\u00ebr studimesh kan\u00eb zbuluar se njer\u00ebzit tregojn\u00eb mesatarisht nj\u00eb num\u00ebr shum\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl g\u00ebnjeshtrash n\u00eb dit\u00eb. Por kur k\u00ebto t\u00eb dh\u00ebna analizohen m\u00eb nga af\u00ebr, ne zbulojm\u00eb se shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz nuk g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb aspak, nd\u00ebrsa disa thon\u00eb \u00e7do dit\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra trondit\u00ebse. Pra del se shumica prej nesh, jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz mjaft t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm. Por ekziston nj\u00eb grusht i vog\u00ebl njer\u00ebzish, q\u00eb prodhon shumic\u00ebn e g\u00ebnjeshtrave q\u00eb qarkullojn\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00ebn ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Un\u00eb jam shum\u00eb kurioz p\u00ebr k\u00ebta \u201cg\u00ebnjeshtar\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj\u201d. Ata p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb nga pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt kryesisht t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb, duke e p\u00ebrdorur g\u00ebnjeshtr\u00ebn dhe mashtrimin p\u00ebr p\u00ebrfitime personale. G\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj n\u00eb politik\u00eb, e g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb popullat\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetes\u00eb politika t\u00eb diskutueshme.<\/p>\n
G\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e biznesit, mashtrojn\u00eb investitor\u00ebt naiv\u00eb ose klient\u00ebt e zakonsh\u00ebm, duke u marr\u00eb parat\u00eb e tyre t\u00eb fituara me aq mund. G\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj n\u00eb vendin e pun\u00ebs, e p\u00ebrdorin g\u00ebnjeshtr\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur avantazhe ndaj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, teksa fshehin t\u00eb metat e tyre.<\/p>\n
Nd\u00ebrsa g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie intime, e p\u00ebrdorin pandershm\u00ebrin\u00eb e tyre p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrfituar nga dhembshuria, devotshm\u00ebria dhe burimet financiare t\u00eb partner\u00ebve. G\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj, jan\u00eb operator\u00eb toksik\u00eb, q\u00eb me tradhtin\u00eb e tyre e njollosin bot\u00ebn ton\u00eb kryesisht t\u00eb ndershme.<\/p>\n
Sapo t\u00eb biem dakord se sa g\u00ebnjeshtra jan\u00eb shum\u00eb, ne mund t\u00eb nisim t\u00eb studiojm\u00eb dhe t\u2019i kuptojm\u00eb k\u00ebta g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj. N\u00eb studimin tim t\u00eb fundit, un\u00eb kam investiguar tiparet psikologjike t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb priren t\u00eb g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb shum\u00eb. Nj\u00eb tipar i zakonsh\u00ebm, \u00ebsht\u00eb se g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj priren ta shohin g\u00ebnjeshtr\u00ebn si di\u00e7ka t\u00eb pranueshme.<\/p>\n
Ata e shohin mashtrimin si nj\u00eb gj\u00eb jo shum\u00eb imorale. Gjithashtu, ata nuk mendojn\u00eb se g\u00ebnjeshtra \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. G\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj, kan\u00eb prirjen t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb pak t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb besuesh\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb interesant fakti, se nj\u00eb nga tiparet q\u00eb parashikojn\u00eb m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtar i madh \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi.<\/p>\n
Njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb shum\u00eb, priren t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb ul\u00ebt se sa njer\u00ebzit e ndersh\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb e paqart\u00eb n\u00ebse g\u00ebnjeshtrat q\u00eb thon\u00eb, nxiten nga vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi i tyre i ul\u00ebt, apo ato jan\u00eb rezultat i k\u00ebsaj t\u00eb fundit. Por prirja e njer\u00ebzve p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra, nxitet nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb edhe nga mjedisi dhe rrethanat personale.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb i shohin prind\u00ebrit e tyre t\u00eb g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb shum\u00eb, priren t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb. Po ashtu, kur njer\u00ebzit vendosen n\u00eb situata n\u00eb t\u00eb cilat sundojn\u00eb figurat autoritare dhe nd\u00ebshkuese, kan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb, pik\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur nd\u00ebshkimin e ashp\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb num\u00ebr i madh g\u00ebnjeshtrash,mund t\u00eb shoq\u00ebrohet edhe me disa \u00e7rregullime psikiatrike, por n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb rasteve, g\u00ebnjeshtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb diagnostikuar zyrtarisht me ndonj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb mendore. Duket sikur k\u00ebta jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz shum\u00eb normal\u00eb, por q\u00eb thjesht kan\u00eb nj\u00eb strategji t\u00eb ndryshme nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb ecur n\u00eb jet\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Sh\u00ebnim: Christian L.Hart, \u00ebsht\u00eb profesor i psikologjis\u00eb, dhe drejtor i programit t\u00eb shkencave psikologjike n\u00eb Universitetin e Teksasit, SHBA. \/ \u201cPsychology Today\u201d \u2013 Bota.al<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Nga Christian L. Hart N\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar, a nuk kemi th\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb nga nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr t\u00eb vog\u00ebl p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos l\u00ebnduar njeriun e zemr\u00ebs, p\u00ebr t\u00eb ekzagjeruar ndjenjat tona mbi di\u00e7ka, p\u00ebr t\u00eb minimizuar disa t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuara mbi veten ton\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar nga nd\u00ebshkimi, apo p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":21960,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,3,20],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n