{"id":17995,"date":"2019-10-08T21:21:40","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T19:21:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/redaktori.com\/?p=17995"},"modified":"2019-10-08T21:21:40","modified_gmt":"2019-10-08T19:21:40","slug":"psikiatri-mikhail-litvak-mjaft-llafoset-per-te-tjeret","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/redaktori.com\/?p=17995","title":{"rendered":"Psikiatri Mikhail Litvak: \u201cMjaft llafos\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"
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A e ke filluar dit\u00ebn keq? A ishte p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb shefit, bashk\u00ebshortit, miqve apo familjes suaj? Pa marr\u00eb parasysh se \u00e7far\u00eb arsye mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kurr\u00eb tep\u00ebr von\u00eb p\u00ebr ta kap\u00ebrcyer k\u00ebt\u00eb, por \u00e7far\u00eb ndodh n\u00ebse hasni probleme t\u00eb rrezikshme p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe nuk jeni t\u00eb sigurt se si do t\u2019i kap\u00ebrceni ato?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ne t\u00eb gjith\u00eb kalojm\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr ato telashe pothuajse \u00e7do dit\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb mbani kok\u00ebn lart, sepse pa marr\u00eb parasysh se sa mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shkalla e problemit, ai kurr\u00eb nuk mund ta kap\u00ebrcej\u00eb fuqin\u00eb e t\u00eb menduarit tuaj pozitivisht.<\/p>\n

Nd\u00ebrsa disa prej nesh do t\u00eb k\u00ebshillonin nj\u00eb grup specifik t\u00eb qasjes dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt mund t\u00eb sugjerojn\u00eb di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr, Mikhail Litvak, nj\u00eb psikiat\u00ebr dhe psikoterapeuti m\u00eb i njohur n\u00eb bot\u00eb, ka disa k\u00ebshilla q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb situat\u00ebn p\u00ebr ju dhe ne po i rendisim ato m\u00eb posht\u00eb p\u00ebr ju:<\/p>\n

1) Mjaft llafos\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fenomen i zakonsh\u00ebm q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit p\u00eblqejn\u00eb t\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr dik\u00eb ose p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka prapa shpin\u00ebs. Arsyeja themelore \u00ebsht\u00eb se njer\u00ebzve nuk u p\u00eblqen t\u2019i deklarojn\u00eb faktet n\u00eb fytyr\u00ebn e dikujt dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb shkakton telashe.<\/p>\n

Ashtu si mund t\u00eb ting\u00eblloj\u00eb e pak\u00ebnaqshme, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kurr\u00eb nj\u00eb ide e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur pas shpine p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit. N\u00ebse e vendosni gjith\u00eb zem\u00ebrimin dhe frustrimin e pun\u00ebs tuaj n\u00eb drejtimin e duhur, rezultatet mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb fenomenale.<\/p>\n

2) Mendojini mir\u00eb gj\u00ebrat, por mos bini n\u00eb depresion!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Disa prej nesh jan\u00eb m\u00ebsuar me iden\u00eb e mendimit t\u00eb thell\u00eb dhe ne e kemi k\u00ebt\u00eb zakon n\u00eb mendjen ton\u00eb deri n\u00eb at\u00eb mas\u00eb saq\u00eb fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebm\u00eb n\u00eb pik\u00ebpyetje pothuajse gjith\u00e7ka rreth nesh.<\/p>\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh thell\u00eb, sepse kjo na jep nj\u00eb qart\u00ebsi n\u00ebse po shkojm\u00eb n\u00eb drejtimin e duhur, por n\u00ebse e ekzagjeroni shum\u00eb n\u00eb di\u00e7ka, ju jeni duke krijuar di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk ekziston.<\/p>\n

Pra, pyetni veten, a jam duke u p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb apo duke u trishtuar? N\u00ebse p\u00ebrgjigja \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo e fundit, at\u00ebher\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ndryshosh di\u00e7ka.<\/p>\n

3) Ndihuni mir\u00eb, mos pyetni t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt!<\/strong><\/p>\n

A i keni pyetur t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt para se t\u00eb zgjoheshit sot apo se si t\u00eb visheshit? \u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb ju t\u00eb jeni n\u00eb vend t\u00eb shoferit dhe jo t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. \u00cbsht\u00eb jeta juaj dhe nuk keni nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr lejen e dikujt tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb doni.<\/p>\n

Ju ndjeheni mir\u00eb kur jeni duke ndjekur lumturin\u00eb tuaj dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e madhe e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. Pa at\u00eb lumturi, nuk jeni askund, prandaj \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendroheni n\u00eb lumturin\u00eb tuaj, m\u00eb shum\u00eb se \u00e7do gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb bot\u00eb.<\/p>\n

4) Ju nuk mund t\u2019i k\u00ebnaqni t\u00eb gjith\u00eb!<\/strong><\/p>\n

N\u00ebse lexoni pik\u00ebn e lartp\u00ebrmendur, ju do t\u00eb kuptoni se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqen dhe kjo vlen p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb.<\/p>\n

N\u00ebse jeni t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendruar rreth k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, at\u00ebher\u00eb ka shum\u00eb gjasa q\u00eb ju t\u00eb humbisni at\u00eb q\u00eb vlen p\u00ebr ju. Gjithkush p\u00ebrreth jush ka nevoja t\u00eb shum\u00ebfishta dhe ndryshon n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb personalitetit t\u00eb personit.<\/p>\n

N\u00ebse p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u2019i k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsh t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, nuk do t\u00eb kesh identitetin t\u00ebnd dhe n\u00ebse nuk e ke k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00e7far\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ka mbetur prej teje?<\/p>\n

Stop k\u00ebnaqjes s\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, filloni t\u00eb jetoni jet\u00ebn tuaj!<\/p>\n

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  1. Mos u kushtoni v\u00ebmendje skeptik\u00ebve, refuzuesve, kund\u00ebrshtuesve!<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    N\u00ebse pyetni nj\u00eb tregtar n\u00eb rrug\u00eb p\u00ebr teknikat se si t\u00eb ngjisni nj\u00eb mal ose nj\u00eb mekanik makine p\u00ebr mir\u00ebmbajtjen e nj\u00eb aeroplani, at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb merrni p\u00ebrgjigjen e sakt\u00eb.<\/p>\n

    \u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb pyetni grupin e duhur t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve p\u00ebr zgjidhjen e duhur. Gjithashtu, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se jeni duke u drejtuar drejt di\u00e7kaje t\u00eb mrekullueshme, mund\u00ebsit\u00eb jan\u00eb q\u00eb ju t\u00eb merrni shum\u00eb reagime t\u00eb kund\u00ebrta, sepse ata nuk kan\u00eb udh\u00ebtuar n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn tuaj.<\/p>\n

    N\u00ebse shkoni drejt rrug\u00ebve m\u00eb pak t\u00eb udh\u00ebtuara, shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz do t\u00eb shfaqen gjithashtu, por kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i kushtoni v\u00ebmendje asaj q\u00eb ata kan\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb.<\/p>\n

    Synoni yjet, por mbajini k\u00ebmb\u00ebt tuaja n\u00eb tok\u00eb dhe kund\u00ebrshtar\u00ebt tuaj do ta marrin p\u00ebrgjigjen automatikisht.<\/p>\n

    Suksesi \u00ebsht\u00eb hakmarrja m\u00eb e madhe!<\/p>\n

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