Ai duket se \u00ebsht\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb \u201cn\u00eb grep\u201d, pastaj vjen nj\u00eb sinjal i kund\u00ebrt dhe ju bini n\u00eb dyshime: por kur nj\u00eb burr\u00eb ju d\u00ebshiron, \u00e7far\u00eb b\u00ebn? E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se ka shenja p\u00ebr t\u2019u pikasur dhe situata q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb analizohen.<\/p>\n
Po krijojm\u00eb nj\u00eb udh\u00ebzues t\u00eb vog\u00ebl q\u00eb mbledh gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ju duhet t\u00eb dini. K\u00ebshilla e par\u00eb? Jini t\u00eb kujdesshme dhe t\u00eb duruera: \u00e7do gjest (ose jo gjest) ka nj\u00eb arsye, dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mbani n\u00eb mendje.<\/p>\n
D\u00ebshira apo r\u00ebnia n\u00eb dashuri, cili \u00ebsht\u00eb ndryshimi?<\/p>\n
Faza e d\u00ebshir\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb faz\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme e vardisjes dhe nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ve\u00e7se nj\u00eb prelud p\u00ebr t\u00eb r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri, n\u00ebse mund t\u2019i luani mir\u00eb letrat tuaja. Gj\u00ebja e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos digjni fazat dhe t\u00eb mos stresoni personin q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqen.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb disa raste d\u00ebshira mund t\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb mbani gjithnj\u00eb parasysh shenjat q\u00eb ju b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoni n\u00ebse ai vet\u00ebm d\u00ebshiron t\u2019ju \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb shtrat.<\/p>\n
A jeni t\u00eb bindura se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo dhe se d\u00ebshira e tij shkon p\u00ebrtej? E pra, le t\u00eb vazhdojm\u00eb dhe t\u00eb zbulojm\u00eb se si sillet nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb nuk d\u00ebshiron vet\u00ebm t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gjimnastik\u00eb n\u00eb dyshek.<\/p>\n
Kur nj\u00eb mashkull ju d\u00ebshiron: sinjalet<\/p>\n
Ndryshe nga grat\u00eb, burrat shpesh nuk flasin p\u00ebr ndjenjat e tyre. Pavar\u00ebsisht nga kjo ka shenja p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar n\u00ebse nj\u00eb mashkull ju d\u00ebshiron dhe n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve ato jan\u00eb t\u00eb pagabueshme.<\/p>\n
S\u00eb pari, mbani n\u00eb mend se burrat nuk jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebrguar mesazhe ose telefonata t\u00eb gjata, n\u00ebse ai e b\u00ebn me ju, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ka di\u00e7ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb se vet\u00ebm miq\u00ebsia. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ehde m\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se p\u00ebrpiqet p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar se si jeni dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019ju ngush\u00eblluar, duke p\u00ebrdorur shum\u00eb nga koha e tij, n\u00eb rastet kur ju keni pasur nj\u00eb dit\u00eb e keqe.<\/p>\n
Pastaj, vini re figurat fem\u00ebrore q\u00eb ka si pika referimi: N\u00ebse ju beson ju gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tijat, mund t\u00eb thuhet se n\u00ebna dhe motra e tij jan\u00eb njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhe se ju jeni n\u00eb vendin e tret\u00eb. Gj\u00eb e keqe? Jo, aspak: n\u00eb realitet kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra e tij p\u00ebr t\u2019ju vendosur n\u00eb nj\u00eb rreth t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb ai do. Ka gjithmon\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkuar n\u00eb vend t\u00eb par\u00eb!<\/p>\n
S\u00eb fundi, vini re kur ai flet p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen: n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ju p\u00ebrfshin n\u00eb planet e tij p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb di\u00e7ka me ju, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se p\u00ebrdor fraza t\u00eb tilla si \u201cUn\u00eb do t\u00eb t\u00eb dhuroj \u2026\u201d, \u201cne do t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb \u2026\u201d dhe \u201cdo t\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u201d ka shanse shum\u00eb t\u00eb mira q\u00eb ju d\u00ebshiron, dhe shum\u00eb madje.<\/p>\n
Sjelljet e burrit t\u00eb dashuruar<\/p>\n
Si\u00e7 kemi th\u00ebn\u00eb, d\u00ebshira \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb prelud p\u00ebr t\u00eb r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja pse \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb vini re disa gj\u00ebra q\u00eb burri i b\u00ebn vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse ju do: t\u2019ju d\u00ebgjoj\u00eb, p\u00ebr shembull, edhe n\u00ebse jeni duke folur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb takim pune t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitsh\u00ebm q\u00eb ka zgjatur kat\u00ebr or\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ose s\u00ebrish, nj\u00eb burr\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri gjithmon\u00eb do t\u2019ju tregoj\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb mendon, edhe n\u00ebse kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb debatoni. N\u00ebse ai ka r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri (ose po bie n\u00eb dashuri), asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb mosp\u00ebrfill\u00ebs: prioritet i tij \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb i sinqert\u00eb me ty, dhe ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh sa kujdeset p\u00ebr ty.<\/p>\n
S\u00eb fundi, kur nj\u00eb burr\u00eb ju d\u00ebshiron \u00e7far\u00eb b\u00ebn? E thjesht\u00eb: tregohet i brisht\u00eb para jush. Ai do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet n\u00eb \u00e7do m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoni se ai ka frik\u00eb se mos largoheni dhe se jeni t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, edhe n\u00ebse ende nuk jeni n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Gjuha e trupit dhe kontakti fizik<\/p>\n
Fol\u00ebm p\u00ebr gjuh\u00ebn e trupit t\u00eb burri q\u00eb ka r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri. Njohja e k\u00ebsaj lloj gjuhe \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme sepse ka gjeste q\u00eb thon\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb mij\u00eb fjal\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse v\u00ebrtet d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb kuptoni n\u00ebse ju d\u00ebshiron, mbani mend nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme: k\u00ebrkimi i kontaktit fizik n\u00eb \u00e7do m\u00ebnyr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb tashm\u00eb nj\u00eb prov\u00eb e madhe: edhe l\u00ebvizja e thjesht\u00eb mund t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoni sa ju do.<\/p>\n
S\u00eb fundi, shikoni at\u00eb kur ec\u00ebn: n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb pran\u00eb jush, mund t\u00eb vini bast q\u00eb s\u00eb shpejti do t\u00eb shpall\u00eb q\u00ebllimet e tij p\u00ebr ju.<\/p>\n
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Ai duket se \u00ebsht\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb \u201cn\u00eb grep\u201d, pastaj vjen nj\u00eb sinjal i kund\u00ebrt dhe ju bini n\u00eb dyshime: por kur nj\u00eb burr\u00eb ju d\u00ebshiron, \u00e7far\u00eb b\u00ebn? E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se ka shenja p\u00ebr t\u2019u pikasur dhe situata q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb analizohen. Po krijojm\u00eb nj\u00eb udh\u00ebzues t\u00eb vog\u00ebl q\u00eb mbledh gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ju duhet t\u00eb dini. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11752,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n