Miqt\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb egocentrik\u00eb dhe negativ\u00eb mund t\u00eb na b\u00ebjn\u00eb shum\u00eb d\u00ebm p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin ton\u00eb mendor: Me q\u00ebndrimin e tyre ata rrezikojn\u00eb t\u00eb na vjedhin lumturin\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb ndahemi prej tyre. Edhe pse ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb po aq e dhimbshme sa kur ndahemi me partnerin.<\/p>\n
Miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, fiksojeni mir\u00eb n\u00eb mendje, jan\u00eb ata q\u00eb na inkurajojn\u00eb dhe na respektojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Mbaji lajmet e mira p\u00ebr veten t\u00ebnde
\nA nuk doni t\u00eb tregoni se keni qen\u00eb t\u00eb promovuar n\u00eb pun\u00eb? Apo s\u00eb shpejti do t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb? Arsyeja e pavet\u00ebdijshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb fshehur lumturin\u00eb tuaj mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb se shoku apo shoqja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb ziliqar apo xheloz. Dhe preferoni t\u00eb q\u00ebndroni t\u00eb qet\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ushqeni ndjenjat e tij negative ndaj jush.<\/p>\n
Por, a duhet t\u00eb sillet nj\u00eb mik i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb k\u00ebshtu? Ai duhet ta ndaj\u00eb lumturin\u00eb me ju, jo t\u2019ju ket\u00eb zili.<\/p>\n
Nuk keni kurr\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb flisni
\nNdodh q\u00eb ju t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb tregoni se keni zbuluar nj\u00eb restorant t\u00eb mrekulluesh\u00ebm t\u00eb peshkut. Por, miku juaj nd\u00ebrhyn menj\u00ebher\u00eb duke u treguar p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn e tij t\u00eb tmerrshme n\u00eb nj\u00eb klub t\u00eb ri.<\/p>\n
Me pak fjal\u00eb, ai d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb flas\u00eb vet\u00ebm ai dhe kur ti flet mezi t\u00eb d\u00ebgjon. Nj\u00eb mik i mir\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u2019ju d\u00ebgjoj\u00eb dhe \u201cshok\u00ebt toksik\u00eb\u201d kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb vet\u00eb referues. Duhet t\u2019i kushtohet shum\u00eb v\u00ebmendje k\u00ebsaj dinamike:.<\/p>\n
Miq\u00ebsia duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb me dy kalime dhe duhet ta d\u00ebgjoni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin reciprokisht.<\/p>\n
Gjykime t\u00eb shumta
\nPse e ftove vjehrr\u00ebn n\u00eb dark\u00eb? Pse i veshe ato k\u00ebpuc\u00eb? Pse shkove n\u00eb at\u00eb fest\u00eb? N\u00ebse shoku juaj gjykon gjithmon\u00eb vendimet dhe mendimet tuaja, kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ai nuk respekton vlerat tuaja. Do t\u00eb ishte m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrprisnit marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet. Miqt\u00eb duhet t\u00eb stimulojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb konstruktive dhe t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb nevojat e nj\u00ebri-tjetrit.<\/p>\n
Miq\u00ebsia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb drejtim
\nN\u00eb miq\u00ebsi, secili ka nj\u00eb kontribut: dikush mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb i mir\u00eb n\u00eb b\u00ebrjen e projekteve t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta, dikush tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb d\u00ebgjues i mir\u00eb dhe k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb. Por kur gjithmon\u00eb miqt\u00eb na thirrin kur kan\u00eb dicka, at\u00ebher\u00eb ndoshta ka di\u00e7ka t\u00eb gabuar: Miqt\u00eb q\u00eb na k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm kur na nevojiten nuk jan\u00eb miq t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Vet\u00ebm ankohet
\nGjithkush mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb keqe dhe ankimi ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shp\u00ebrthim i madh. Por n\u00ebse nj\u00eb mik kalon dit\u00ebn duke u ankuar dhe duke faj\u00ebsuar t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt (duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb edhe ju) n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar nj\u00eb situat\u00eb q\u00eb nuk i p\u00eblqen, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sjellje konstruktive dhe mund t\u00eb d\u00ebmtoj\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb afat t\u00eb gjat\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ju drejton n\u00eb vendime t\u00eb gabuara
\nA ju shtyn shoku juaj t\u00eb b\u00ebni di\u00e7ka t\u00eb gabuar q\u00eb nuk donit ta b\u00ebnit? Ndoshta ai ju ofron nj\u00eb cigare kur doni t\u00eb hiqni dor\u00eb? Apo m\u00eb keq ju bind p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb pije tjet\u00ebr kur e di q\u00eb do t\u00eb jeni n\u00eb timon? Nj\u00eb mik i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk do t\u2019ju shtyj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ju v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik ose gjithsesi t\u00eb b\u00ebni di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk d\u00ebshironi. Shpesh ky lloj i njer\u00ebzve i \u00e7on t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt n\u00eb nj\u00eb sjellje jo t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme. N\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ata t\u00eb ndjehen m\u00eb pak fajtor\u00eb p\u00ebr veprimet e tyre. M\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh larg.<\/p>\n
Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i besuesh\u00ebm
\nJu keni organizuar nj\u00eb dark\u00eb me mikun tuaj prej koh\u00ebsh dhe n\u00eb momentin e fundit ju tregon se ai nuk mund t\u00eb vij\u00eb. Sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb von\u00eb p\u00ebr pun\u00eb ose ka dhimbje koke, apo m\u00eb keq akoma ka harruar.<\/p>\n
Dhe ndoshta ju punoni shpesh n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje
\nProgrami i planifikuar ishte mbr\u00ebmja e vetme e lir\u00eb pas nj\u00eb kohe t\u00eb gjat\u00eb. Kjo sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsi tregon se shoku n\u00eb fjal\u00eb ka pak respekt p\u00ebr koh\u00ebn tuaj, n\u00ebse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb episod sporadik dhe i jasht\u00ebzakonsh\u00ebm. Mesazhi, jo shum\u00eb i mbuluar, \u00ebsht\u00eb: \u201cNuk ia vlen q\u00eb t\u00eb dal\u00eb me ju\u201d. Miqt\u00eb e mir\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb besuesh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n
Shum\u00eb ngjit\u00ebs
\nMiku yt d\u00ebshiron miratimin tuaj p\u00ebr \u00e7do vendim q\u00eb ai b\u00ebn. Ose ju k\u00ebrkon \u00e7do fundjav\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dal\u00eb dhe ju k\u00ebrkon llogari pse nuk u p\u00ebrgjigjeni menj\u00ebher\u00eb mesazheve t\u00eb tij. Duket se nuk ia del dot pa ju, dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb var\u00ebsi e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, n\u00ebse miq\u00ebsia b\u00ebhet shum\u00eb e ngjitshme dhe mbyt\u00ebse. Esht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb flitet p\u00ebr t\u00eb, duke ftuar mikun q\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb hap prapa.<\/p>\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb kritik
\nNegativiteti i shumt\u00eb l\u00ebndon. N\u00ebse shoku juaj vazhdimisht e kritikon restorantin ku shkoni, fest\u00ebn me miqt\u00eb e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia ka gjasa q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsohet: \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jesh optimist n\u00ebse jeni t\u00eb rrethuar nga njer\u00ebz q\u00eb vet\u00ebm kritikojn\u00eb apo shohin vet\u00ebm zi. M\u00eb mir\u00eb sqarohuni dhe mundoheni q\u00eb t\u00eb gjeni nj\u00eb pozitivitet t\u00eb vog\u00ebl: por n\u00ebse gj\u00ebrat nuk ndryshojn\u00eb, zgjedhja e duhur \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb largoheni.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Miqt\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb egocentrik\u00eb dhe negativ\u00eb mund t\u00eb na b\u00ebjn\u00eb shum\u00eb d\u00ebm p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin ton\u00eb mendor: Me q\u00ebndrimin e tyre ata rrezikojn\u00eb t\u00eb na vjedhin lumturin\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb ndahemi prej tyre. Edhe pse ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb po aq e dhimbshme sa kur ndahemi me partnerin. Miqt\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, fiksojeni mir\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11732,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n