Jo, jo dhe jo. \u00c7far\u00eb ka n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201cjo\u201d? Nj\u00eb privim, nj\u00eb ndalim, nj\u00eb mohim. Kur zgjedhim t\u2019i themi jo f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb, ne menj\u00ebher\u00eb ndihemi pak fajtor\u00eb, sikur kjo t\u00eb na katapultonte n\u00eb gabim.<\/p>\n
Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, t\u2019i rezistojm\u00eb kapri\u00e7ove ose fytyrave t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitura t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e leht\u00eb, p\u00ebrkundrazi, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb betej\u00eb e p\u00ebrditshme, por duhet ta luftosh me racionalitet dhe vendom\u00ebri. Po, duke e privuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebn nga di\u00e7ka mund t\u00eb duket fillimisht nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e \u201ckeqe\u201d, por n\u00eb nj\u00eb afat t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, do t\u00eb kuptoni se \u201cjo\u201d i sh\u00ebrben rritjes dhe formimit t\u00eb karakterit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur, nuk ka asgj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb gabuar: n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ju jeni duke i dh\u00ebn\u00eb pa dashur nj\u00eb vizion t\u00eb shtremb\u00ebruar t\u00eb jet\u00ebs ku \u00e7do gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb dhe leht\u00ebsisht e arritshme. Jeta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, kur ata kan\u00eb p\u00ebrvojat e tyre t\u00eb para n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e jashtme, do t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se jeta mun d t\u00eb ket\u00eb edhe \u201cJo\u201d, dhe nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb. N\u00ebse f\u00ebmija nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebsuar me k\u00ebt\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb mbetet i frik\u00ebsuar dhe t\u00eb mbyllet n\u00eb vetvete, duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb turpsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb mbyllur.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb shkoll\u00eb ose me miqt\u00eb e par\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur q\u00eb t\u00eb lindin mosmarr\u00ebveshje dhe momente, kur f\u00ebmija merr nj\u00eb \u201cjo\u201d t\u00eb fort\u00eb nga m\u00ebsuesi. N\u00ebse f\u00ebmija \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebsuar duke u p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur, nuk do t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb kuptimin e k\u00ebtij privimi dhe do ta p\u00ebrjetoj\u00eb at\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb negative.<\/p>\n
Kur ju m\u00ebsoni f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj se di\u00e7ka nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet ose nuk lejohet, ju sugjeroni n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb implicite se si t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me situata t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira: duke k\u00ebrkuar ndihm\u00eb. Kur gjejm\u00eb nj\u00eb der\u00eb t\u00eb mbyllur para nesh, ne jemi m\u00eb t\u00eb prirur p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur nj\u00eb zgjidhje alternative, p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar vet\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb stimuluar kreativitetin dhe, n\u00ebse asnj\u00eb nga k\u00ebto opsione nuk \u00e7on n\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjidhje fituese, k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb ndihm\u00eb.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmija q\u00eb mund t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb kur ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dor\u00eb shtes\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur nj\u00eb problem menj\u00ebher\u00eb b\u00ebhet m\u00eb i ndjesh\u00ebm. Empatia vjen nga ndjenja e v\u00ebnies s\u00eb vetes n\u00eb dispozicion t\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrmve n\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi, duke kuptuar nevojat e tyre dhe duke ndier emocionet e tyre.<\/p>\n
Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb \u201cPo\u201d, ne b\u00ebjm\u00eb t\u00eb rritet nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur dhe me vese, q\u00eb nuk ka ndonj\u00eb sens praktik. Me ndonj\u00eb \u201cJo\u201d m\u00eb shum\u00eb, f\u00ebmija jon\u00eb do t\u00eb rritet i fort\u00eb dhe i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr rreziqet e bot\u00ebs dhe do t\u00eb dij\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb si t\u2019I p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb, duke buz\u00ebqeshur. \/ bota.al<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Jo, jo dhe jo. \u00c7far\u00eb ka n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201cjo\u201d? Nj\u00eb privim, nj\u00eb ndalim, nj\u00eb mohim. Kur zgjedhim t\u2019i themi jo f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb, ne menj\u00ebher\u00eb ndihemi pak fajtor\u00eb, sikur kjo t\u00eb na katapultonte n\u00eb gabim. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, t\u2019i rezistojm\u00eb kapri\u00e7ove ose fytyrave t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitura t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e leht\u00eb, p\u00ebrkundrazi, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10956,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18,21],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n