Disa nga k\u00ebto marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie jan\u00eb pozitive dhe na \u00e7ojn\u00eb drejt rrug\u00ebve t\u00eb reja, m\u00eb pozitive dhe t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjshme, zgjojn\u00eb versionin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb vetes dhe na ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb krah p\u00ebr krah me parimet dhe vlerat tona dhe t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrave.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebto marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie krijohen me njer\u00ebz bujar\u00eb, vet\u00ebmohues, t\u00eb dashur dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrulur.<\/p>\n
Do t\u00eb ishte mir\u00eb n\u00ebse t\u00eb gjitha lidhjet tona t\u00eb ishin pozitive dhe reciprokisht t\u00eb dobishme, por fatkeq\u00ebsisht jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt jetojm\u00eb jan\u00eb pozitiv\u00eb ose sillen k\u00ebshtu me ne. K\u00ebshtu q\u00eb shpesh kemi t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb me njer\u00ebz negativ\u00eb dhe t\u00eb pasigurt, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk jetojn\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur dhe p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb duke na ndotur me vibrimet e tyre t\u00eb ul\u00ebta.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb koh\u00ebs, arsyeja q\u00eb i b\u00ebn njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb sjellje negative \u00ebsht\u00eb brenda tyre, gj\u00eb q\u00eb i b\u00ebn ata t\u00eb abuzojn\u00eb me nj\u00eb privilegj q\u00eb posedojn\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb l\u00ebnduar t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt me pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre. K\u00ebto q\u00ebndrime nuk jan\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijshme, por gjithmon\u00eb d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb viktimat, duke ulur cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e jet\u00ebs dhe vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin.<\/p>\n
Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr ne t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb na b\u00ebn t\u00eb trajtojm\u00eb veten me injoranc\u00eb, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht kur nuk kemi b\u00ebr\u00eb asgj\u00eb t\u00eb gabuar, por ne duhet t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb faji yn\u00eb. Ata thjesht sapo kan\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb brenda vetes.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb vijim jan\u00eb disa arsye q\u00eb mund t\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb sjellje negative.<\/p>\n
\u2013 Personi ndihet jasht\u00ebzakonisht inferior ndaj atij me t\u00eb cilin shfaq sjelljen toksike dhe posht\u00ebruese;<\/p>\n
\u2013 Personi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i sigurt p\u00ebr veten dhe ndjen se njer\u00ebzit rreth tij\/saj jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Pra, p\u00ebrdor posht\u00ebrimet si nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndier veten m\u00eb lart\u00eb p\u00ebr disa momente;<\/p>\n
\u2013 E gjith\u00eb kjo ndjenj\u00eb e inferioritetit ndaj nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb caktuar ose t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve rreth vetes, e b\u00ebn at\u00eb t\u00eb ndihet i k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar dhe p\u00ebrdor posht\u00ebrime p\u00ebr \u201cta v\u00ebn\u00eb tjetrin n\u00eb vendin e vet\u201d.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebto arsye mund t\u00eb duken t\u00eb vlefshme p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb praktikojn\u00eb posht\u00ebrimin, por duhet t\u00eb ndryshojm\u00eb mendimin dhe sjelljen. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, posht\u00ebrimi i dikujt tjet\u00ebr nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb e superioritetit dhe kurr\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb na ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb projektojm\u00eb di\u00e7ka pozitive n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. P\u00ebrkundrazi, vet\u00ebm na b\u00ebn t\u00eb mbushur me pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, t\u00eb pak\u00ebnaqur dhe t\u00eb frustruar me jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb, sepse askush nuk d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb jet\u00eb af\u00ebr njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb thjesht i hedhin posht\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse identifikoni modele t\u00eb sjelljes posht\u00ebruese n\u00eb vetvete, ndaloni dhe mendoni se \u00e7far\u00eb ju motivon.<\/p>\n
A nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr vet\u00eb-afirmim dhe a kemi nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb?<\/p>\n
N\u00ebnshtrimi i nj\u00eb personi tjet\u00ebr nuk na ngre, nuk na ndihmon t\u00eb evoluojm\u00eb ose t\u00eb mbrohemi nga vetja jon\u00eb apo nga e keqja q\u00eb ekziston rreth nesh. Kjo tregon vet\u00ebm sa t\u00eb papjekur dhe t\u00eb pak\u00ebnaqur jemi, sepse na duhet t\u00eb l\u00ebndojm\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndjer\u00eb pak m\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr veten ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ne largohemi nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet pozitive dhe nga jeta e lumtur kur nuk i respektojm\u00eb njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb. N\u00ebse k\u00ebto q\u00ebndrime ju japin k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni ndihm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u \u00e7liruar nga ky standard jetese.<\/p>\n
Njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb objekt i posht\u00ebrimit e din\u00eb sa rraskapit\u00ebs dhe trishtues \u00ebsht\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb q\u00ebllimi i atyre q\u00eb posht\u00ebrojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehen m\u00eb lart\u00eb, por kjo nuk ndodh asnj\u00ebher\u00eb. Vet\u00ebm sa del m\u00eb n\u00eb pah brisht\u00ebsia dhe dob\u00ebsia e tyre. Pra, pa marr\u00eb parasysh se p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb arsye jeni jotolerant\u00eb, ajo sjellje kurr\u00eb nuk do t\u2019ju sjell\u00eb dobi n\u00eb jet\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebnshtrimi i njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb nuk ju b\u00ebn nj\u00eb person t\u00eb fort\u00eb dhe t\u00eb admiruesh\u00ebm, vet\u00ebm ju b\u00ebn t\u00eb pak\u00ebnaqur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Disa nga k\u00ebto marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie jan\u00eb pozitive dhe na \u00e7ojn\u00eb drejt rrug\u00ebve t\u00eb reja, m\u00eb pozitive dhe t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjshme, zgjojn\u00eb versionin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb vetes dhe na ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb krah p\u00ebr krah me parimet dhe vlerat tona dhe t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrave. K\u00ebto marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie krijohen me njer\u00ebz bujar\u00eb, vet\u00ebmohues, t\u00eb dashur dhe […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10839,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n